Some pretty nifty quotes from the book "The Four Loves" by C.S. Lewis.

So i guess i am kinda speaking to myself along with other women at the same time when i post these quotes and what registered in my head. Something to note: Lewis refers to love between a man and a woman as Eros. Got it? k, good.


About a man just falling in love or Eros.

"A man in this state really hasn't the leisure to think of sex. He is to busy thinking of a person." (So those good guys you girls want...they are thinking of you, not sex. Good to know!)

"...Eros enters him like an invader, taking over and reorganizing; one by one, the institutions of a conquered country. It may have taken over many others before it reaches the sex in him; and it will reorganize that too." (In other words love REALLY does change everything, even how we think...about anything!! For Christians you will also recognize this happening as you get to know God better.)

"Sexual desire, without Eros, wants it, the thing in itself; Eros wants the Beloved."
"Without Eros sexual desire, like every other desire, is a fact about ourselves."
(Sexual stuff without love is one thing: selfish. ouch. Love just wants you.)

"(The thing means that...) He 'wants a woman'. Strictly speaking a woman is just what he does not want. He wants a pleasure for which a woman happens to be the necessary piece of apparatus." (...speaks for itself.)

"Eros makes a man really want, not a woman, but one particular woman." (Tru dat!)

"Eros, without diminishing desire, makes abstinence easier." (God made us to love...duh.But Love, Eros is self-less)

Lewis notes the importance of love and laughter...its all from God.

"For i can hardly help regarding it as one of God's jokes that a passion so soaring, so apparently transcendent, as Eros, should thus be linked in incongruous symbiosis with a bodily appetite which, like any other appetite, tactlessly reveals connections with such mundane factors as weather, health, diet, circulation, and digestion. In Eros at times we seem flying; Venus (Lewis refers to our sexual drive as Venus) gives us the sudden twitch that reminds us we are really captive balloons. It is a continual demonstration of the truth that we are composite creatures, rational animals, akin on one side to the angels, on the other to tom-cats. It is a bad thing not to be able to take a joke. Worse, not to take a divine joke; made, i grant you, at our expense, but also (who doubts it?) for our endless benefit." (K, now read it again...let it sink in. Its ok to laugh now and to be excited to love/laugh.)